The holiday season is upon us, and yesterday I received my first Christmas Gift. I should first say that this year I’ve been working on a variety of homemade gifts to give (see my posts on felted wool, grape jelly, and zucchini). I’ve discovered that homemade gifts really do mean a lot to me and make me happy when I receive them, so this was particularly exciting being in the spirit of homemade gift-giving.
This gift was called a Warrior Box or Distress Tolerance Box. Here is a photo of the beautiful, creative box:
With the holiday season upon us, a little distress tolerance is never a bad thing. Between shopping, cooking, scheduling, decorating, and traveling, we tend to freak out a little.
Distress Tolerance is a skill taught in a type of therapy called Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (or DBT). I’m not going to give you a long lecture about this module of the therapy but you can read more about it by following this link. DBT was originally developed by a woman named Marsha Linehan, Ph.D. to help people with Borderline Personality Disorder. Over time, it has become clear through research that the skills she teaches are helpful and applicable to anybody and can also be applied to many different disorders. I think they’re perfect for holiday-freakout feelings among many others!
So back to my fancy box. The idea behind this box is that the user fills it with things they find soothing. So when they’re having feelings of distress (for example, “Oh crap! I’m never going to be able to make it to all of these events on my schedule AND get my shopping done!”), they can just go to their box and have a personalized toolkit already filled with things that will help them calm down and effectively tolerate the situation. What I love about this particular box is the decoupaged outside. It’s happy, free, strong, and fun.
Now my task is to fill the box with soothing things. It is important to think about the 5 senses with this: sight, smell, touch, taste and hearing. I’m posting this to not only show you my totally awesome box, but to solicit some ideas as well. So far all I have thought of to put in there is a candle. I love the smell of that recently wildly popular Thymes Frasier Fir candle (like this: Thymes Poured Candle, Frasier Fir, 6.5-Ounce Jar), and would like to add one of those. I think maybe a favorite comic book would be good to add, as well as a photo of my happy son.
What would you put in your Distress Tolerance Box? I need ideas!!! Have you thought of making your own box before? What helps you during times of distress?